Mike Bechtle

Loved—we have a place in someone else’s heart
Respected—someone admires us for our personal qualities, achievement, or status
Needed—someone has a vacuum in their life that we fill
Focused on—another person is intentional about caring for us
Noticed—we capture someone’s attention rather than being invisible
Valued—someone would feel a loss if we were not in their life
Refreshed—someone brings a casual lightness into our life
Trusted—another person feels safe in our presence and shares their life openly
Listened to—when we talk, someone wants to understand, not just to reply
Encouraged—others give us fresh strength to continue when ours is lacking
Shown commitment—there’s someone who we trust won’t give up on us when things get crazy
Allowed to dream—dreaming is risky and creative, and we need someone who doesn’t put us down for those wild ideas for the future

It’s not realistic or practical to be constantly stretching. The comfort zone is where we live, relax, and regroup. It’s where we recharge and gain energy for the next adventure.

. One man might be more sensitive while another is not. One man tends to be driven by performance while another is driven by reflection.