Reprocessing the Shock of Betrayal: An EMDR Workbook for Healing Infidelity and Close-Friend Betrayal Trauma
An EMDR Workbook for Healing Infidelity and Close-Friend Betrayal Trauma
Betrayal often arrives as a fact and then spreads backward through time. You learn about an affair, a hidden relationship, a confidante who shared your private information, or a friend who quietly undermined you. The discovery may take five minutes. Its meaning can occupy months.
People frequently describe the first hours in oddly physical language: the floor dropped, the room tilted, the chest tightened, the face went hot, the hands became cold. That language makes sense. Trust is partly cognitive, but it is also predictive. Your nervous system had learned that a certain person, relationship, or social world was safe enough to stop monitoring. Betrayal forces a rapid rewrite.
The first task is therefore definition. What happened? What agreement, expectation, or bond was violated? Which facts are known, and which are feared? The mind hates an incomplete story, so it tends to fill gaps aggressively. A clearer account lowers some of that cognitive noise.
What You Will Discover Inside Reprocessing the Shock of Betrayal
In Reprocessing the Shock of Betrayal, Thalita Lindqvist writes a practical guide you can use this week. You will find scenes you recognize, steps you can try today, and language that does not insult the problem.
Chapter 1: The Shattering Impact of Betrayal: What the Shattering Impact of Betrayal looks like in ordinary days, and the first move that actually helps.
1.1 What Constitutes Betrayal? Defining Your Pain: What 1.1 What Constitutes Betrayal? Defining Your Pain looks like in ordinary days, and the first move that actually helps.
Chapter 2: Betrayal as Trauma: A Neurobiological Perspective: Language and steps for a pain that advice-column cheerfulness cannot reach.
2.1 Beyond “Just Hurt”: Recognizing Traumatic Stress: Language and steps for a pain that advice-column cheerfulness cannot reach.
Chapter 3: Common Responses to Betrayal Trauma: Language and steps for a pain that advice-column cheerfulness cannot reach.
3.1 Emotional Rollercoasters: Anger, Sadness, Shame: What 3.1 Emotional Rollercoasters: Anger, Sadness, Shame looks like in ordinary days, and the first move that actually helps.
