Sex in Human Loving

Games are played by people who are afraid of intimacy, either in general or with each other. They are a way of getting close to others and having meaningful transactions without the surrender that intimacy requires.

Green’s con is either coming on strong by being seductive or forward, or else playing hard to get. Brown’s gimmick or weakness is sexual desire or a need for power over people. The payoff may be either wet or dry. In wet games, the payoff is orgasm (finally), preceded by a lot of insincerity and followed by a lot of mixed feelings on both sides. In dry games, Green’s payoff is a feeling of victory, and Brown’s is frustration and the reactions to that.

The payoffs in any game are not only enjoyed or suffered at the moment but are filed away for future use, very much like grocery store trading stamps