Yinka, Where Is Your Huzband

Yes, your rich chocolate skin does deserve a seat at the table.

I realize how freeing it is to say what I think. To stand up for myself. I realize how much less of an effort it is to be my authentic self, as opposed to trying to be someone else. I love this feeling.

Define your own definition of beauty. Don’t wait for society or any poxy magazine to do it for you. Don’t wait for social media (oh, you’ll find out what that is). And most definitely, do not wait for any man to affirm the beauty that you are. Tell yourself that you’re beautiful each and every single day.

My message for you is . . . be ready. Be ready for the world you’re about to enter. Because the world of today doesn’t fairly uphold women who look like you. As a dark-skinned woman, sadly, you do not look like today’s standard of beauty. So be ready, baby girl. Be ready and stand ready. Be ready to walk into any room with your chin held high and your shoulders rolled back because, yes, your rich chocolate skin does deserve a seat at the table.

You’ll grow older and face many more challenges as you navigate this world as a dark-skinned woman. There will be days when you’ll take pictures and feel like crap when you look at the photo and can hardly see yourself.

Psalm 139:14—I praise you because I’m fearfully and wonderfully made
Phenomenal woman, that’s me

You see, my dear, in life, you will face many, many pressures. But it’s important that you only do what you want to do, in your own time and at your own pace. If you can remember this, you’ll live a very happy life.

“A person who doesn’t believe in themselves may think that they are not worthy of love,”

“Don’t be sorry for who you are. Or what you believe in. No woman should ever feel like they have to compromise themselves, and especially not you.

You accept me for who I am. Take it or leave it.