Compassion, Love and Sex

Only in love does one come to feel that one is more than the body, more than the mind.

A happy man is never a perfectionist. Only unhappy people are perfectionists, only unhappy people are obsessed with their work because that is the only way they can avoid themselves, they can avoid facing themselves, they can avoid encountering themselves. They are continuously working, they will go on working late hours; unless they fall asleep they go on working. Why? Because they are afraid. If they stop work, then what to do? Then they are left to themselves and they cannot face themselves.

Compassion is all-inclusive, intrinsically all-inclusive. So if you cannot feel compassion for your neighbor, then forget all about meditation because it has nothing to do with somebody in particular. It has something to do with your inner state. Be compassion: unconditionally, undirected, unaddressed. Then you become a healing force in this world of misery.

he moment you can say to existence, “I am perfect as I am, I am happy as I am,” this is what in the East we call shraddha – trust. Then you have accepted yourself and in accepting yourself you have accepted existence. Denying yourself you deny existence.

The individual has totally different interests from the society because the society has no soul. The society is soulless. And if you become too much a part of the society, it will reduce your soul also to a non-entity.

Society is not interested in your happiness, in your joy. The interest of the society is more production, efficiency, more work. And don’t ask for what, because they don’t know for what. You work hard; they will say to create better situations. For what? To work still harder. It is just like a man who earns money, and you ask him, “For what?” He says, “To earn more money.” “And then you earn more money, then what?” He says, “To earn still more money.” The thing seems to be vicious.

The path of the specialist becomes narrower and narrower. He never sees the tree, he only can see the leaf. The whole is lost in the part. And, of course the part cannot exist without the whole. In fact, all divisions are arbitrary. The leaf is not separate from the branch, the branch is not separate from the tree, the tree is not separate from the roots, the roots are not separate from the earth. Everything is in organic unity. The specialist goes on dividing, and by and by those divisions, those demarcations, take on too much importance. A specialist becomes inhuman.

be choiceless because if you choose you become narrow. Every choice narrows you down. Every choice says, “Now I will have a window to the sky, not the whole sky.” Why? Why have a frame to the sky? The sky is frameless. When you stand at a window and look into the sky, you have falsified the sky because your window-frame looks as if it is framed on the sky. Then you have only a limited vision, narrow.

If you are sexual I don’t say drop sex, I say, make it more alert, make it more prayerful, make it more profound, so that it can become love. If you are loving, then make it even more grateful; bring deeper gratitude, joy, celebration, prayerfulness to it, meditation to it, so that it can become compassion.

In sex, it is a give-and-take relationship with no respect.