Growing Up as the Family Scapegoat is for anyone who has been treated as the family's problem, the one who gets blamed, whispered about, and asked to disappear. You may have spent years assuming that if only you tried harder, stayed quieter, or explained better, things would change. This book does not ask you to diagnose anyone or to carry the burden of proof. Instead, it helps you name what happened, understand how the role operates in family systems, and recognise the behaviours that kept you in it. With grounded explanations, reflective exercises, and clear, practical tools, you will learn to separate their account of you from the person you actually are. You will also be shown how to manage contact, grief, and the startling quiet that can follow when you stop playing the role. Where family contact is difficult or unsafe, the guidance is clear: your safety comes first, and support is available. You decide what relationship, if any, you want. Part of The Estrangement Library.
About the author
Ottilie Winterslow Follansbee writes for The Estrangement Library.
