Five-Minute Relationship Repair

If a core need feels frustrated or unmet, a core fear will be triggered

Core Fears Trigger Reactive Behaviors

Within an intimate partnership we all need to feel valued and respected. These are core emotional needs. Couples therapist Sue Johnson says our core needs are like air, food, and water in our love lives. To feel safe and secure with a partner, we need to feel these needs are met. If we feel any are not met, our survival alarms will instinctively react

Incorporating attachment theory and the latest discoveries in neuroscience, this book offers an astonishingly clear path toward the love and intimacy we long for

Five-Minute Relationship Repair

need to feel . . . connected to you, accepted by you, valued by you, appreciated by you, respected by you, needed by you, that you care about me, that I matter to you, that we are a team, that I can count on you, that I can reach out for you, that you’ll comfort me if I’m in distress, that you’ll be there if I need you.

I need to feel . . . connected to you, accepted by you, valued by you, appreciated by you, respected by you, needed by you, that you care about me, that I matter to you, that we are a team, that I can count on you, that I can reach out for you, that you’ll comfort me if I’m in distress, that you’ll be there if I need you.

want to feel like we have each other’s backs, operate like a team, and can rely on each other.