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Kai Cheng Thom

I Hope We Choose Love

    jimena astridcompartió una citahace 2 meses
    As for those communities of queer people, racialized people, disabled people marginalized people that have been taking back their power? The social justice activists that raised me to believe in the possibility of a revolution that would change and save the world? Sometimes it seems like the most painful cuts of all come from within my own community: Call-out culture. Lateral violence. Puritanical politics. Intimate partner abuse. Public shaming. We know so much about trauma but so little about how to heal it. What would “community” know about saving us from the apocalypse?
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 6 meses
    safe and free are not the same thing
    living and alive are not the same thing
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    hard to walk with ghosts on your shoulders, but when you learn to listen to what they’re saying, you realize that they’re telling the story of who you are.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 6 meses
    Three generations of stories slipped through the cracks in the words between us, two whole lifetimes lost in translation.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 6 meses
    We are living in the beginning of the end, in the apocalypse. We are living in a time of flame, and the old dreams are dying: Capitalism. Communism. Individualism. Collectivism.
    We must choose to place our hope in the magic and resilience of queers, in our capacity to break apart and reform, to invent possibility from ash. I choose to believe that we can do it, that there will be a place for me somewhere in the swirling chaos we call the future. I choose to believe that we can mourn what we used to be and love what we are and honour what comes next.
    We can live and celebrate life. Together.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 6 meses
    Sooner or later, we all must leave Neverland. But where do we go next?
    What does it mean to grow up? To face the future? What do queers owe each other, and what do we owe ourselves? These are the questions that our queer generation is facing, as did the ones before us. Although some might say that growing up means assimilating into heteronormative society, this is not really an option for many queers. It is not an option for me.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    The story is a dream of healing, but it is not healing in and of itself. The spirit must heal itself. The story is a dream of the revolution, but it is not a revolution on its own. The people must make their own revolutions. The story is a dream of love and the seed of love and a map for love, but it takes people, not stories, to love each other. And here, the storyteller learns that the life of the story and the life of the teller are separate, though intertwined. The storyteller comes to understand that the telling of a good story is not the same as living a full life, though one informs the other.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    Two things worry me: One is the tendency of the public to give power and credence to storytellers who fail to recognize their own limitations and then set themselves up as prophets, misusing their position to exploit or harm others
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    There’s a difference between ethical storytelling—which is about sourcing story material ethically and building ethical relationships with one’s audience—and assuming a role of caregiving and mentorship, which not every storyteller is willing or capable of doing.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    Even in the midst of despair, there is always a choice. I hope we choose love.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    Survival is not a badge of purity, nor a shield from accountability
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    I am trying to let love emerge from my traumatized body
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    We must reject nihilism because that way lies fascism. We must reject despair and embrace healing, slow and imperfect though it may be, and turn instead to love—love strong enough to live without faith. I am trying to embrace my own healing. I am trying to love my own painful, wounded life.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    I do not have much faith in justice, but I have no choice but to believe in it. The other option is nihilism—total lack of faith in humanity—which I reject
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    a time, I became quite valorized in my local community as a “good” upholder of social justice because I was very skilled at using the right language and doing the right things, and I tended to apologize unreservedly and perfectly when I “fucked up.” I now recognize this as a skill born of trauma: the ability to ceaselessly and accurately scan the people in one’s environment for a sense of what will please them, and then to enact it, no matter the cost to one’s long-term health. This skill is a brilliant short-term survival strategy, as most trauma coping strategies are, designed to negotiate the unpredictability and cruelty of punishment—and unfortunately, a punishment narrative is deeply embedded in much of social justice.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    Honesty, in my family, means saying what you mean, even if it is unpopular.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 7 meses
    Heteronormative society is pathogenic to queers and queer community because it hates us, it is violent to us, and it makes our stories invisible. Heteronormative society traumatizes us by demonizing our sexual expression—and so, we come to hate our sexual expression, our sexual identities, our sexual selves. We pass this hatred from one generation of queers to another in the form of unsafe and non-consensual sex practices, in slut-shaming and sex negativity and sexual aggression.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 9 meses
    We have to be able to care, even when it seems impossible because caring would destroy us. We have to believe that we will survive each other, that we will survive because of each other, because there is something waiting for us when the ice melts.
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 9 meses
    We need community practices and institutions that acknowledge the social conditions that breed violence—unchecked capitalism, misogyny, a policing system that profiles and fails to protect communities of colour, inadequate social services—and provide pathways to healing for hurt people. We need more hospitals and social programs, not more prisons and police
    Max Valenciacompartió una citahace 9 meses
    Heartscape writes, “Punishment is not something that happens to bad people. It happens to those who cannot stop it from happening. It is laundered pain, not a balancing of scales.” This line has always, will always, haunt me.
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