Russ Harris

The reality is, life involves pain. There’s no getting away from it. As human beings we are all faced with the fact that sooner or later we will grow infirm, get sick and die. Sooner or later we all will lose valued relationships through rejection, separation or death. Sooner or later we all will come face-to-face with a crisis, disappointment and failure. This means that in one form or another, we are all going to experience painful thoughts and feelings.

The great playwright George Bernard Shaw put it like this: “For every complex problem, there is a simple solution that is wrong.”

Keep in mind that you can’t control the feelings of trust; you can only control the actions. So if you want to trust your partner again, then begin with small actions: trust him in tiny little ways and see if he proves worthy.